Does someone who suffer from cancer become a more agressive person?

Your mom needs to call the doctor and ask him to prescribe some tranquilizers. Your dad seems angry because he knows what’s ahead for him. His behavior is not uncommon and can get worse, which may lead to an accelleration of his disease, or other problems. Have her call the doctor. He can help.

No, not everyone. I had cancer without the need for chemo.

But, Chemo really does suck the life and energy out of person so his “snappiness” can be partly due to not feeeling well and partially due to frustration. Is he on other medicaiton that might alter his personality? Chemo is a very emotional rollercoster. My mother in law had cancer this past year too and she underwent chemo and radiation. If anything, she became very sad. Slowly, after it was all done, she began to bloom again.

The best thing you can do is not to take it personally. Offer as much support to you Mom as possible because the situation is hard on her too.

There are many reasons for this to happen, Depresion is a key player also the medications that may be taken and also the theropy. what you have to remember is that your farther will be upset more than angry give him reasurance that you love him and spend time with him.

I had colon cancer, and I know there are times when I was the most rudest and angry person on this earth!!!

There were several reasons for this. Firstly, the stress of having cancer is difficult. People handle it differently. For me, there were some days where I would cry and cry and think I’ve had enough, other days where I was angry that I was going through it, and some days where I was like I’m going to beat this thing! Even if you are the most calmest and relaxed person, dealing with a disease that can kill you can change you. So I was very sensitive and touchy. For example, my mum would simply try and encourage me to have something to eat, and I would scream and cry telling her to leave me alone!

Secondly, is he on steroids? When I was having chemo I was on steroids, and they mess up your hormones too, so that makes it worse.

Chemo is tough, very tough. And that is also very difficult to deal with. And everyone handles it differently.

I can’t imagine what it’s like for you or for your mum. I know all you want to do is support him, and all I can say is don’t take it too personally. I know I made my mum cry a lot throughout it all, but the only thing you can do is be patient, and supportive. Now, I keep apologising for being such a pain.

Good luck.

I am so sorry about your dad’s dx. I also have lung cancer, my dx is terminal and inoperable. Its not unusual for a person to become angry. Many will go thru a grieving process not unlike for those who grieve from the loss of a loved one.. after all, we are grieving for the lives we may not every have! Here is a list of the 5 grief stages, it may help you see what he is going thru. I didn’t ever get to the angry stage, well I did, but at my cancer, not at the world. A person doesn’t necessarily go thru these cycles in order, they can be jumbled and they can occur many times.. sometimes getting stuck on one stage, such as anger.
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Shock stage: Initial paralysis at hearing the bad news.

Denial stage: Trying to avoid the inevitable.

Anger stage: Frustrated outpouring of bottled-up emotion.

Bargaining stage: Seeking in vain for a way out.

Depression stage: Final realization of the inevitable.

Testing stage: Seeking realistic solutions.

Acceptance stage: Finally finding the way forward.

He is sick, he is scared, and chemotherapy can cause very serious depression which they don’t bother to tell you about at the hospital.
Hang in there with him, he will be his old self later and probably be sorry he yelled. Good luck.